Finding Meaning – Why Questions Are Just As Good As Answers
I’m 32 years old and feel that I’m relatively sorted. And yet, I don’t think I’ve figured out the meaning of my life. Or even what I’m meant to be doing with my life. If anything, as I get older and...
View ArticleAgreeing To Disagree
I recently wrote an article for SameSame.com.au asking if we’re perhaps too focused on marriage equality. I started the article by stating I am a 100% supporter of marriage equality. I simply had the...
View ArticleA Few Random Holiday & Post-Holiday Life Observations
Aaah…there’s nothing quite like the feeling of coming back home after a great holiday. It’s like the feeling you get when you jump into bed on clean sheet’s night, except your whole life has that nice,...
View ArticleLiving In A Gay Cocoon
In an increasing number of places around Australia and the world, you can live in essentially, a gay cocoon. There are gay neighbourhoods, filled with gay shops, doctors, clubs, restaurants….pretty...
View ArticleWorking Out For Life
Are you a yo-yo gym rat? You go hard for short periods of time, but then find a mountain of excuses (work, social life, new partner) to allow months to elapse between gym visits? I was just the same –...
View ArticleEmbrace Your Thirties!
Screw the youth obsessed culture we live in. Even if I could, I wouldn’t want to go back in time and and re-live my 20s all over again. The 30s are where it’s at, baby! Here’s what I love the most...
View ArticleSome Thoughts On Gay Labels
Humans create labels to understand things. One label can lead to another. In this way, you can go from human to male to gay. But gay isn’t always the end of the label line. The labels can continue....
View ArticleTaking A Gaycation
The plans have been made. Plane tickets are booked. So is the hotel. The friends are rearing to go. So now the countdown to my very first gaycation begins! A gaycation (gay + vacation) is essentially...
View ArticleLoving Your Body
For the first time in my life, I actually feel good about the way I look. And guess what? I don’t have washboard abs. My biceps aren’t bulging to escape from my shirt sleeves. And I’ll probably never...
View ArticleCelebrating The Small
The Little Gay Blog recently turned 1 year old. It’s an achievement that I’m very proud of, as it does take quite a lot of time and effort to keep writing consistently and producing (hopefully) high...
View ArticleWhy ‘I Don’t Know’ Can Sometimes Be The Best Answer
Our relationship to needing to know is an interesting one. There are some people (a minority) who are OK with not knowing. Then there are others (an even smaller minority) who don’t need to know. But...
View ArticleA New LGBTI Identity
These are exciting, and increasingly progressive, times for the LGBTI community. Gay rights are now firmly planted in the mainstream political discourse. Broad public support for marriage equality is...
View ArticleAn Open Letter To ‘Men’s Health’ Magazine
Dear Men’s Health, I’m a long-term, loyal subscriber. I love your magazine. As a guy in my 30s, it’s a great source of information (that I can actually try and apply in my own life), as well as...
View ArticleGetting Older…And Happier
Getting older…and happier. These four words are not a mistake or misprint, dear reader. They are in fact, a reflection of something that is actually possible. Gay culture tends to be youth obsessed. I...
View ArticleApproaching 40 – Blink And It’ll Be Here
One of the strongest memories I have of turning 30, is of my mother leaning in to me to give me a kiss as she handed me my birthday present. Knowing her as I do, I was expecting her to whisper...
View ArticleThis Digital Life
The Summer of ’99 was a Summer of many firsts for me – both good and bad. I flew on my first plane. I fell in love for the first time. I experienced my first real, close loss (my father). And I was in...
View Article5 Reasons Why Hook Up Apps Aren’t Closing Down Gay Bars
A recent story from across the pond lamented the imminent closure of Auckland’s longest running gay venue, Urge. Co-owners Paul Heard and Alan Granville were understandably upset at the closure of...
View ArticleThe Pretty Boy
Pretty boys. We’ve all seen them. At the clubs, on the street, at the supermarket. They’re distinguished by ticking off a bucket list of perfect qualities. Great hair, check. Muscled body, check....
View ArticleGiving Up The Gym
I’m considering giving up the gym. Not because I’m not interested in fitness anymore. On the contrary. I’m probably more interested in fitness and getting stronger and healthier than ever before. I’m...
View ArticleCleaning as Meditation
Cleaning and housework aren’t exactly at the top of my fun priority list. This is especially true during the inescapable heat of a much warmer than usual Australian Autumn. Yet I’ve noticed that...
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